In portraying men as utterly captivating in their beauty and sexual prowess to the exclusion of professional power, this new shift in the culture is justifying the economic emasculation of men.
Feminist cope. Women put off their fertile years to compete with men. By the time they reach any sort of success, their fertility window is waning if not closed, and they have effectively turned themselves into men. Which men with options are not attracted to. So naturally there's a big market selling fantasy to women who bought into the whole thing, who want to think that they really are super hot in their 40's and 50's.
A documented Nicole Kidman allergy has protected me from many of the early versions of these films. It also saved me from trying to read emotions into a face so "magically" free from aging that it's completely inexpressive.
Nice post, Batya! I share your skepticism. Strong women, eh? 🤔 Just out of curiosity, I’m wondering how many of these strong women attended the White House Correspondents Dinner? Must have been quite a few, since the progressives dominate the media and there are lots of women in that crew. While I haven’t seen all the footage, one thing that’s missing is an example of one of these “strong” women protecting anyone (adoring man or otherwise) from the danger of the gunfire. I suspect we will never see such an example. On the other hand, there are numerous examples of adoring men protecting women from the danger of gunfire by shielding the women with their bodies. The NYT just can’t stop spewing the verbal vomit 🤮
From the male perspective, this can be a rather attractive proposition, too. When I first got out of the service and started college, I probably spent close to 3 hours every day in the weight rooms of my university. My lean and hungry years. There was a school administrator who worked out about the same times that I did and she was simply smoking hot. Tall, v. athletic, long natural hair streaking gray, smart, never married, and forward. But it was too awkward to go public. She ended up marrying the swim coach and I had to admit, they made a great pair. She was 20 years my senior, but oh, my.
Have the Macrons commented? There's no way she could have known he was the future President when he was 15. And how about Mohammed? You could do both of the age gap scenarios in a movie about him.
How many older women look like Nicole Kidman and Anne Hathaway? Also, how many older women WANT men who are significantly younger than them?
As an old woman (not just older, I'm 64) I would be creeped out by a man under 50 who found me attractive. I'd assume he had some sick granny fetish.
When I was in my 40's the "Cougar" crap was popular. All that got me was little boys in their 20's thinking they could get lucky by hitting on a middle aged woman. Um - no. I would just pin their names to their shirts and send them on their way.
Emotionally mature older women want a man who loves them, is devoted to them, and has something in common with them. Not some silly little boy toy who feeds their delusion that they're just as hot as women under 40. No. We simply are NOT. Older women may be just as lovable as younger women, but we're only sexy to the men who love us. And that's okay.
A terrific article I loved every minute of Batya! So the answer to women being treated like sex objects in the past, is to treat men like sexual objects now? Because that makes all the sense in the world! The answer to misogyny isn’t misandry, it is equality and to treat women AND men as human beings. Sacagawea, Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Harriet Tubman, Ida B. Wells, Sojourner Truth, Pauli Murray, Mary Church Terrell, Amelia Earhart, Abigail Adams, Eleanor Roosevelt, Ada Lovelace, Beulah Henry, Martha Gellhorn, Andree de Jogh, Josephine Baker, Joan of Arc, Princess Diana, and other great women from history would be horrified if they were alive today and picked up the New York Times. This is NOT how they would want their daughters to be thinking nor why any of them fought and sacrificed in their lifetime for. They fought for or exemplified, gender equality NOT a repressive matriarchy where women rule over men. Here’s the thing guys, objectification is wrong no matter who it’s done to because your turning a human into an object.
It was wrong when done to women because it was being done to a PERSON, not Neely because it was being done to a woman. Let’s treat women AND men as the four-dimensional complex individuals they are! Let’s also show that beauty is extremely powerful in both sexes and rivals money and power in our movies and television shows. How about men and women both throwing it all away to chase someone who has hypnotized them mutually? How about showing the messiness of power and sexuality in all its glory, in both directions? Also, can we please stop acting like women are inherently good and men are inherently bad? That’s just absolute nonsense, as history can tell you. The Countess Elizabeth Bathory, Brenda Spencer, Alieen Wuornos, Queen Ranavalona I of Madagascar, Empress Wu Zeitan of China, “Bloody Mary” Queen Mary I of England, Fredegund of Soissons, Olga of Keiv, Isabella I of Castile, Catherine de’Medici, Empress Julia Agrippina, Irene of Athens, and Delphine LaLaurie are all good examples of this fact. We can also find many, many good men in history like Fred Rogers, Walt Disney, Jim Henson, Theodor Geisel, Saint Nicholas of Myra, Saint Patrick, Jesus of Nazareth, Moses, King David, Davy Crockett, Daniel Boone, Johnny Appleseed, Frederick Douglass, Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Dr. Jonas Salk, Cyrus the Great, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, Roger Williams, Raoul Wallenberg, Witold Pilecki, John Rabe, Cincinnatus, and Vasili Arkhipov are just a FEW examples of men who who did great things and made the world a better place just by being in it.
Let us readers guess --- article is about wokeness, isn’t it? Probably how “wokeness” is projecting propaganda that old, infertile, wrinkled ladies are still sexy or something?
Which is infantilizing and de-masculating white men, right? Keeping them from reproducing with young, fertile white women which is actually media effort to lower birth rates and eliminate “Western culture” (i.e. whites/white genocide)
Or something close to that.
You should take me seriously. I nailed it, didn’t I?
It has been very disturbing to read about all these female teachers seducing tween to teenage boys (and girls) lately. I was wondering if it was just confirmation bias on my part or if this is another (hideous, immoral) trend hinted at in the films you mention here, Batya.
Batya you have a doctorate in english literature and this is the best you could come up with? Your thesis was "Coercive Pleasures: The Force and Form of the Novel 1719-1740" for Hashem's sake! do better
Wouldn’t you say part of the problem is the dating culture in America is cooked? Young women are taught by social media that they should expect no standards below six figures and over 6ft tall and can shower them with LV bags and Caribbean vacations. Most young men can’t live up to that standard. But more mature and older women are far more grounded and know the difference between a fantasy and reality. So I would not be shocked at all that younger men are craving older women at this point
A healthy society would also acknowledge that men age better than women, and a young, hot guy may start looking elsewhere when his powerful sugar mama gets to be wrinkly.
Feminist cope. Women put off their fertile years to compete with men. By the time they reach any sort of success, their fertility window is waning if not closed, and they have effectively turned themselves into men. Which men with options are not attracted to. So naturally there's a big market selling fantasy to women who bought into the whole thing, who want to think that they really are super hot in their 40's and 50's.
A documented Nicole Kidman allergy has protected me from many of the early versions of these films. It also saved me from trying to read emotions into a face so "magically" free from aging that it's completely inexpressive.
She was good in ‘To Die For’.
The so-called "Women's Movement" sure made a lot of narcissist women.
Feminism was always communism in a dress.
Feminism was always communism in a dress.
Nice post, Batya! I share your skepticism. Strong women, eh? 🤔 Just out of curiosity, I’m wondering how many of these strong women attended the White House Correspondents Dinner? Must have been quite a few, since the progressives dominate the media and there are lots of women in that crew. While I haven’t seen all the footage, one thing that’s missing is an example of one of these “strong” women protecting anyone (adoring man or otherwise) from the danger of the gunfire. I suspect we will never see such an example. On the other hand, there are numerous examples of adoring men protecting women from the danger of gunfire by shielding the women with their bodies. The NYT just can’t stop spewing the verbal vomit 🤮
We learned everything we need to know about this phenomenon from Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore.
From the male perspective, this can be a rather attractive proposition, too. When I first got out of the service and started college, I probably spent close to 3 hours every day in the weight rooms of my university. My lean and hungry years. There was a school administrator who worked out about the same times that I did and she was simply smoking hot. Tall, v. athletic, long natural hair streaking gray, smart, never married, and forward. But it was too awkward to go public. She ended up marrying the swim coach and I had to admit, they made a great pair. She was 20 years my senior, but oh, my.
Have the Macrons commented? There's no way she could have known he was the future President when he was 15. And how about Mohammed? You could do both of the age gap scenarios in a movie about him.
Story brings the President of France to mind.
And powerful women have always had their toy boys. That is as old as civilization.
Beat me to it while I was typing the part about Mohammed. .
How many older women look like Nicole Kidman and Anne Hathaway? Also, how many older women WANT men who are significantly younger than them?
As an old woman (not just older, I'm 64) I would be creeped out by a man under 50 who found me attractive. I'd assume he had some sick granny fetish.
When I was in my 40's the "Cougar" crap was popular. All that got me was little boys in their 20's thinking they could get lucky by hitting on a middle aged woman. Um - no. I would just pin their names to their shirts and send them on their way.
Emotionally mature older women want a man who loves them, is devoted to them, and has something in common with them. Not some silly little boy toy who feeds their delusion that they're just as hot as women under 40. No. We simply are NOT. Older women may be just as lovable as younger women, but we're only sexy to the men who love us. And that's okay.
This trend feels like a result of increased feminist control of Hollywood: middle-aged women greenlighting their sexual fantasies.
A terrific article I loved every minute of Batya! So the answer to women being treated like sex objects in the past, is to treat men like sexual objects now? Because that makes all the sense in the world! The answer to misogyny isn’t misandry, it is equality and to treat women AND men as human beings. Sacagawea, Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Harriet Tubman, Ida B. Wells, Sojourner Truth, Pauli Murray, Mary Church Terrell, Amelia Earhart, Abigail Adams, Eleanor Roosevelt, Ada Lovelace, Beulah Henry, Martha Gellhorn, Andree de Jogh, Josephine Baker, Joan of Arc, Princess Diana, and other great women from history would be horrified if they were alive today and picked up the New York Times. This is NOT how they would want their daughters to be thinking nor why any of them fought and sacrificed in their lifetime for. They fought for or exemplified, gender equality NOT a repressive matriarchy where women rule over men. Here’s the thing guys, objectification is wrong no matter who it’s done to because your turning a human into an object.
It was wrong when done to women because it was being done to a PERSON, not Neely because it was being done to a woman. Let’s treat women AND men as the four-dimensional complex individuals they are! Let’s also show that beauty is extremely powerful in both sexes and rivals money and power in our movies and television shows. How about men and women both throwing it all away to chase someone who has hypnotized them mutually? How about showing the messiness of power and sexuality in all its glory, in both directions? Also, can we please stop acting like women are inherently good and men are inherently bad? That’s just absolute nonsense, as history can tell you. The Countess Elizabeth Bathory, Brenda Spencer, Alieen Wuornos, Queen Ranavalona I of Madagascar, Empress Wu Zeitan of China, “Bloody Mary” Queen Mary I of England, Fredegund of Soissons, Olga of Keiv, Isabella I of Castile, Catherine de’Medici, Empress Julia Agrippina, Irene of Athens, and Delphine LaLaurie are all good examples of this fact. We can also find many, many good men in history like Fred Rogers, Walt Disney, Jim Henson, Theodor Geisel, Saint Nicholas of Myra, Saint Patrick, Jesus of Nazareth, Moses, King David, Davy Crockett, Daniel Boone, Johnny Appleseed, Frederick Douglass, Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Dr. Jonas Salk, Cyrus the Great, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, Roger Williams, Raoul Wallenberg, Witold Pilecki, John Rabe, Cincinnatus, and Vasili Arkhipov are just a FEW examples of men who who did great things and made the world a better place just by being in it.
Let me guess.
"Wokeness?"
Let us readers guess---You had to stick your nose in again today...but no one takes you seriously
Let us readers guess --- article is about wokeness, isn’t it? Probably how “wokeness” is projecting propaganda that old, infertile, wrinkled ladies are still sexy or something?
Which is infantilizing and de-masculating white men, right? Keeping them from reproducing with young, fertile white women which is actually media effort to lower birth rates and eliminate “Western culture” (i.e. whites/white genocide)
Or something close to that.
You should take me seriously. I nailed it, didn’t I?
It has been very disturbing to read about all these female teachers seducing tween to teenage boys (and girls) lately. I was wondering if it was just confirmation bias on my part or if this is another (hideous, immoral) trend hinted at in the films you mention here, Batya.
Batya you have a doctorate in english literature and this is the best you could come up with? Your thesis was "Coercive Pleasures: The Force and Form of the Novel 1719-1740" for Hashem's sake! do better
Wouldn’t you say part of the problem is the dating culture in America is cooked? Young women are taught by social media that they should expect no standards below six figures and over 6ft tall and can shower them with LV bags and Caribbean vacations. Most young men can’t live up to that standard. But more mature and older women are far more grounded and know the difference between a fantasy and reality. So I would not be shocked at all that younger men are craving older women at this point
A healthy society would also acknowledge that men age better than women, and a young, hot guy may start looking elsewhere when his powerful sugar mama gets to be wrinkly.